How To Prepare For Your Divorce

Are you considering divorce but don’t know where to start? Watch this video to learn more how to prepare for your divorce in Oklahoma.

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James V. Murray, Esq.

Attorney University of Oklahoma Law School, Oklahoma State Bar

As a personal injury lawyer, I enjoy helping people. It’s easily the most satisfying part of my job and it’s what drives me to come in to work every day. Those whom I help are real people with real problems.

In personal injury, it’s important to remember that clients are more than just clients. I always make sure that I do. Through my cases, I am able to truly help the people who need it.

When I’m not in the office, I spend time with my wife, who I love very much, and volunteer at my church. I also work extensively with the Boy Scouts of America because I truly believe in the importance of instilling great values in our nation’s young men.

Areas of Expertise: Personal Injury, Car Accidents, Truck Accidents, Motorcycle Accidents, Bus Accidents, Construction Accidents, Dog Bites / Attacks, Slip and Fall Injuries, Pedestrian Accidents, Bicycle Accidents, Wrongful Death, Family Law, Divorce, Grounds for Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony / Spousal Support, Division of Assets, Estate Planning, Probate, Criminal Defense, DUI / DUAI
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Question:

How should I start my divorce?

Answer:

There’s a time that comes in marriage when you know things are in trouble. You know that divorce is going to be inevitable. The question is, what can you do to get ready? A lot of times there are children involved. A lot of times there’s debt. A lot of times one spouse has the other spouse locked out of all the money.

When you find yourself in these situations, you need to think of a couple of things. One is, how are you going to survive financially with no money? Somehow you have to start preparing for that. Somehow you have to start saving money, or convince your spouse to give you access to money. A lot of spouses control the other spouse with money. You have to worry about how to independently live once you leave the house or the other spouse leaves. The other thing is with child care and child custody, that’s a tough deal. A lot of times you can prepare a little bit by being very devoted to your children and spending a lot of time with them, preparing them for what’s coming. It’s a wake up call and shocks kids when their parents no longer live together. If you’ve been a parent who’s been aloof, and not spending any time with the children for some time, you need to probably refocus yourself and focus on your children and do what’s in their best interest. It’s tough to put them in the middle of these things, but sometimes they are.

You can spend the time needed to reestablish or establish a stronger bond with your children. Probably the best way to prepare for divorce is contacting an experienced trial lawyer who does divorce trials, who understands the intricacies and all the problems associated with it. By doing that, you can take the time to prepare so you can be proactive instead of reactive. Many times in divorces, we react. If you can take the time to plan, you can be proactive and avoid a lot of problems.


Are you thinking about leaving your marriage and have questions about how to prepare for your divorce? Contact a Stillwater divorce attorney at Murray Law Firm today for a free confidential consultation and case evaluation. Let our experience work for you.

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James V. Murray, Esq. Avatar

James V. Murray, Esq.

Attorney University of Oklahoma Law School, Oklahoma State Bar

As a personal injury lawyer, I enjoy helping people. It’s easily the most satisfying part of my job and it’s what drives me to come in to work every day. Those whom I help are real people with real problems.

In personal injury, it’s important to remember that clients are more than just clients. I always make sure that I do. Through my cases, I am able to truly help the people who need it.

When I’m not in the office, I spend time with my wife, who I love very much, and volunteer at my church. I also work extensively with the Boy Scouts of America because I truly believe in the importance of instilling great values in our nation’s young men.

Areas of Expertise: Personal Injury, Car Accidents, Truck Accidents, Motorcycle Accidents, Bus Accidents, Construction Accidents, Dog Bites / Attacks, Slip and Fall Injuries, Pedestrian Accidents, Bicycle Accidents, Wrongful Death, Family Law, Divorce, Grounds for Divorce, Child Custody, Child Support, Alimony / Spousal Support, Division of Assets, Estate Planning, Probate, Criminal Defense, DUI / DUAI
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